I have worked hard my whole life, slogged away at it quietly behind closed doors; the junior cert, the leaving cert, my degree, countless unpaid internships, countless shitty part time jobs. All on the basis that once I came out the end of that tunnel, my efforts would be rewarded. I would have the offer of a job, not just any job, but the dream job.
Alas, here I sit, a year on and not only do I not have the offer of thee job, I have no offers for any jobs, not even the ones I once thought beneath me to apply for. What has happened, where have I gone wrong?
I have followed societies orders, I have studied hard, never smoked or taken drugs, been nice to people, rarely fought with my parents, never had ‘issues’, never was demanding, or attention seeking, never built up a credit card debt, never gambled, never did anything illegal, never did anything too reckless. I’ve been a good little girl. Yet it seems, none of that plays a part, none of that counts…
I mustn’t be good enough?
Ouch. Saying it out loud is like getting punched in the gut.
So what do I do, I emigrate of course, like countless Irish before me. So here I sit in Perth, Australia crashing in a cousin’s house. Taking up space. I have announced to the world that I am here, you can employ me now, and once again I am met with stony silence. Moving was meant to solve the problem, a bigger marketplace, a better chance… instead just more people to reject my resume.
It has been suggested to me that I should think about retraining? One year after graduating, I should admit defeat and choose a more sensible option. To give up on Journalism, to give up on the dream before I’ve even given it a chance to take off.
No, I can’t do that, not yet. Shall I slug away once more, working bar jobs, scraping by, living the student life, waiting for the opportunity that might never arrive?
Or do I take the less sensible option and gather together the scrapings of my bank account to explore Australia, in the hope that while I shuffle through the outback, someone will reach out and take a chance on me? With the knowledge ever weighing on my shoulders that if they don’t, I’ll have to crawl back home with my tail between my legs, my confidence in shatters, and ask Mammy and Daddy to support their failing 24 year old once more.
Do I gamble in the hope that this may actually happen for me, or do I settle down to a reality that I’ve never wanted?
The time has come to make a decison.
Go on, roll the dice. Decide my fate.
5 thoughts on “Being a Grown Up”
Gamble. ..all the way…
Oh Órla – you’ve only just arrived in Perth – give it a chance – you are certainly not a failure – you are a clever, bright young person with plenty of energy – get out there and meet people – make connections with groups and clubs involved with adventure sports – I’m sure there are lots of them there – it’s the great outdoors after all . As I said before you left treat it as a holiday for the next month or so and take every opportunity that comes your way. You have the talent – things won’t fall in to your lap – you have to make things happen. Best of luck – you can do it, girl !! ❤ ❤ ❤
Follow your dream Órla – you will get there one way or another and knowing you, you will make an adventure of your journey that I really look forward to reading. You go girl! Go n-éirí an tadh leat.
Do it! Take a gamble, for me and countless others. If you don’t in ten years time you will regret it. Believe me. Do it!
Dont give up till its over xxxxxxxxxxxx
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